i have a new "little man" in my life ;)

[kilofey]

hes a friend of my sisters... she knows him pretty well... ill give it a shot

[pufferpuggirl]

I agree with PP. Be wary of everything being perfect first thing. People are naturally going to be on their best behavior and go the extra mile to impress at first. That stars-your-eyes feeling can be very addictive but it also clouds your vision. None of that will last. He may seem so great, too, simply because he seems to be the complete opposite of your recent ex.

I have to agree with what mrgreen has said here, especially about men being on their best behaviour at first -- I definitely fell for that one and only found out, too late, that the person was VERY different from the image they projected for a couple of years. You're still young, hold out for someone who's sincere and honest, best qualities you can get.

[Pufferpunk]

There is a reason in you that you kept looking the other way for 3 years. Don't tell me you had no suspicions. If you don't find out what that is in you that tolerated that kind of indifference & lack of respect towards you, you are bound to repeat the behavior. I suggest counseling with a good therapist, before you decide to move on to a new relationship. Please be sure you are tested for all communicable diseases too.

[Flutter]

Gee, that guys a real loser. I've been saying that for a bit though, lol.

Good luck with the new guy, hopefully he turns out to be a keeper

I just want to back up the getting tested for infections/diseases. Many of them have NO SYMPTOMS including HIV. I would get tested now and get tested again in a few months as not all things will show up at the first testing.

The puffer is adorable as is the name. I want one

[kilofey]

Gee, that guys a real loser. I've been saying that for a bit though, lol.

Good luck with the new guy, hopefully he turns out to be a keeper

I just want to back up the getting tested for infections/diseases. Many of them have NO SYMPTOMS including HIV. I would get tested now and get tested again in a few months as not all things will show up at the first testing.

The puffer is adorable as is the name. I want one

good god, you better believe it... i never do anything with a guy until we are both tested... its hard to do sometimes tho, cause as wierd as it seems, you almost feel rude asking someone to get tested... if thats not wierd...

to PP- yea, i somewhat had suspicions... but i had no proof... none what so ever... what could i do? nothing really... which BLOWS!

[Pufferpunk]

Hepatitis C is one sexually transmitted disease many Drs don't regularly test for. Symptoms don't show up for 20 years--after you're in liver failure.

[Flutter]

good god, you better believe it... i never do anything with a guy until we are both tested... its hard to do sometimes tho, cause as weird as it seems, you almost feel rude asking someone to get tested... if thats not weird...

to PP- yea, i somewhat had suspicions... but i had no proof... none what so ever... what could i do? nothing really... which BLOWS!

I completely understand. I had my boyfriend get tested before anything happened too. If a guy takes offense to that then there's something wrong. Frankly, I would be relieved to know that my partner was clean!

[pufferpuggirl]

Although my marriage is far from perfect, I am soooo glad that I'm not in the dating game nowdays. There's just so much to go wrong, so much to think about. Maybe getting older has it's good points too (oh, what am I saying?!!)

[kilofey]

man... i wish i didnt have to deal with this bull PPG... jealous! lol o well...

[Pufferpunk]

Being married to a wonderful man for almost 19 years, definitely has it's benefits!

[pufferpuggirl]

man... i wish i didnt have to deal with this bull PPG... jealous! lol o well...

Ah, but you're young kilofey, and you will find a nice man, just be patient and stick to your guns!

[kilofey]

ahhh poo... age is just a number lol

[mrgreen]

Yes. I agree- as someone who turns 39 for the first time in a month.

[J-P]

You're know you're on a female dominated board when ....

[kilofey]

:rofl2: go away! no boys allowed, this is a girls club!